I really do appreciate everyone's comments and advice to my latest posting. After much thought today I have decided that I will continue to plod along on my own for a bit longer and just continue to give my friends an ear-bashing, rather than consult the services of a professional. I can see both pro's and con's in either option. It has only been a week and so I may be getting a little ahead of myself, however if my shitty feelings are still here in the long term, then I will investigate the other options.
I am not sure quite why I was so sad yesterday. I think alcohol was a significant factor, along with the fact that I saw my friends Melissa and Em, both who I had not seen since the break-up, and both who were keen to discuss how I was coping etc. I think this all just bought my feelings to the surface once again and I was sad, once again. I think you guys are right in the fact that I am feeling sad after a break-up, simple as that. However should I get to the point where I do not want to leave the house, put make-up on, exercise, eat, sleep etc etc then I will seek help.
After Jason left I did go to a counsellor for one session and my experience was similar to Matt's in that there was not much that they could tell me which I hadn't already heard a dozen times over from my friends.
On a positive note, I am feeling much happier today.....I do wish I could just get past all this crap and be over it, but I do understand that this is what I need to go through to come out the other side. I have vowed NEVER to call him again, as that would do me no favours and short of him coming back and begging my forgiveness, I will not be taking him back either. He is done and we are done and I have to get over it. It is that simple.
Monday, February 18, 2008
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I'm glad you're feeling better today, it's just how these things go really. Up and down, up and down, down and down, up and up. I think the most important thing to remember is that at some point in the future you will realise you haven't even thought about him today. Then for two days, then for a week. Then you're actually with someone else and you're thinking about how silly you were to think Tony was that great compared to *this*...
Sadness becomes depression when you can honestly say to yourself that it will never get better. I can't even remember when I felt that way, though I do remember it was there. I think now, no matter what there is always the knowledge things will change.
The only thing I can suggest is not to listen to your head, get out of the house, do exercise, cook, ring someone and make plans.
I hope the rest of your day is a good one, see you soon!
Comments on that last thread annoyed me in some ways. If I were to somehow lose Melinda I think I would seek the help of someone. Such a loss I would like to process with someone outside of my life, to help regain some perspective. Whilst many might say "it's not the same" how can we know that?
I certainly understand what was said about the overuse of medications and therapists time, but I feel we can't judge the severity or impact of a change through the eyes of the person experiencing it, no matter how much we feel we know someone.
I think what most are trying to say is that therapy shouldn't be seen as a "feel good" solution. It should be seen a means of addressing something that is detrimentally effecting your life without signs of improvement.
If it's a bad day then act on it with friends and distractions. If there are things in your head you've been struggling with and recent events are just a part of that then maybe take it more seriously.
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