Sunday, February 17, 2008
Another day
Well here I am on Sunday, almost a week since it is over. I have spent almost my entire afternoon out feeling sorry for myself and crying whilst at the pub - super classy. I am going up and down right now. I think I am ok, but then I spend my afternoon crying uncontrollably. I don't know what is wrong with me. I can't go on like this. I feel like shit. This afternoon I ran into Tony's ex-gf at the pub and that sent me on a downward spiral. I thought I was ok, but clearly I am not. I don't know what to do about this anymore. I am going to investigate the option of counselling as I am pretty much fucked at the moment and have no idea what to do now.
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Do it do it do it. Talk to your GP or get someone to recommend a counsellor. Counselling rocks, the psychologist has to sit there and listen to everything you say and pretend to be interested :)
Sounds like a good proactive idea. Great to get your head straight rather than struggle along feeling all over the place.
I don't know. Just like anti-biotics the overuse of counselling and psychology can render you mind weak.
I'd just suggest using your friends more and considering whether this is part of a bigger issue, or the issue is just a breakup.
People breakup all the time and people get sad all the time and I think the services of a counsellor or professional are there for people that can't fix the issue themselves. You've only given yourself a week, a week where anyone in your position will feel shit and up and down and rotten. No one can set a time limit on things but a week seems a little short.
I think what you might want to keep in mind is that what you're describing isn't unusual, they're completely normal feelings and reactions to a common situation. You are not alone. Everyone has felt this in some way and you have a bunch of great counsellors in your group of friends.
Which way you go is obviously up to you but I think that there a line between character building and taking on too much and by takign this route you might be skipping an opportunity to really build a tougher, better Carrie.
As someone who's used the services of a professional for this exact "problem" I have some insight.
You'll go there, and you'll be told that it's normal to feel this way, and that it's not your fault.
Unless this is an indicator of a larger problem then I, personally, don't think it'll help much. It's good to dump all this stuff on someone else, but you can do that with your friends.
My experience was pretty similar to you (5 years in a kid's relationship vs. 9 months in an adult relationship). Other people have had great success with counseling or psychologist, and that's wicked, but they're solving *actual* medical problems. If that's the case for you too, then I totally agree it'd be a smart thing to get a professional's advice, but if you're (just - and I say this with the utmost respect and love) sad because a relationship ended that was very important to you, then it's a different situation.
You're meant to feel crap and cry a lot - there'd be something wrong with you emotionally if you didn't.
Congratulations, you're a caring human being that wants to be give and receive love, and you hurt when that doesn't happen.
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